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Boyfriend’s parents want him to get me pregnant
November 06, 2025
Dear Pastor,
This is the second time I am writing to you. When I was in high school, I wrote to you, but I do not know if you replied.
I am now 22 years old and my boyfriend is also 22. I am still living at home. My boyfriend lives on his own. We see each other every week. I go to his house and I wash his clothes and clean his house. My grandmother knows that is what I do for him. My boyfriend pays me $6000 for washing and cleaning for him. When he does not have to work and I am at his house, he helps me with the cleaning, and I don't have to cook. But when he is not at the house, I cook so that when he gets home, something is prepared for him. I love my boyfriend. He is from a good family. Sometimes he gives me money to give to my grandma.
I am attending HEART. I want to be a practical nurse. This man makes me feel very special. I used to have another man in my life, but he was very mean. Whenever I needed something from him, I had to beg him, but my boyfriend gives me whatever I ask him for. He told me that he wants to marry me, but his folks say that we are too young. I know we are not too young to get married. I am trying my best not to get pregnant. I always have protection in my bag. We do not have unprotected sex. His folks say that he should not get married unless the woman gets pregnant. I do not want to get pregnant before I am married.
E.C.
Dear E.C.,
I am sure that your boyfriend appreciates you very much. You go to his home and you take care of his place.
Although you are his girlfriend, he pays you for the work you do for him. I would say that he is a good man. I hope that he takes some of his clothes to the laundry. I hope that he does not depend on you to wash certain clothes such as his jeans and heavy linens.
No one should determine what is the correct age for you and this man to get married. But those who are telling your boyfriend that he should try and impregnate you before marrying you are out of order. I hope that he will not listen to them.
Pastor
