My mother-in-law says husband using me for green card

Dear Pastor,

I hope you are doing well. I am reaching out because I am in need of your advice and guidance regarding my marriage. 

My husband and I have been married for two years. I currently live in the United States of America while he remains in Jamaica. I filed immigration petitions for him and his children, and we are currently waiting for the visa restrictions to be lifted so the process can move forward.

Recently, I received a phone call from his mother that has left me deeply troubled. She told me that my husband is still involved with the mother of one of his children. She said that he is only using me to obtain a green card. She suggested that I should stop the immigration process. 

The conversation affected me so much that I had to pull over while driving because I felt overwhelmed.

I asked her whether my husband had told her these things or if she had heard them from someone else. She responded that it was simply what she believed in her heart. She also told me not to discuss the matter with my husband and not to tell him about our conversation. 

Since that call, I have been struggling emotionally. 

My husband and I have what I believe is a good relationship. I visit him at least six times a year, and he has never given me a reason to believe he is using me. At the same time, I understand that appearances can sometimes be deceiving, which is why I am finding this situation so difficult.

I have invested a great deal of time, love, effort, and financial resources into this relationship. Part of me wants to walk away from everything to protect myself from potential heartbreak, but another part of me does not want to give up on my marriage without any evidence or proof of wrongdoing.

Adding to my confusion, my husband has often expressed that he feels his mother does not like him, which makes me question whether her comments are coming from genuine concern for me or from unresolved issues she may have with him.

Pastor, I would greatly appreciate your guidance. Should I speak to my husband about these concerns, or should I remain patient and observe how things unfold? I want to handle this situation wisely, honestly, and in a way that honours both my marriage and my faith.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I look forward to hearing your advice.

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Dear Writer,

I will suggest to you to pursue the filing of your husband and the children. Do not allow what your mother-in-law told you to stop you from doing what is right. Some mothers-in-law are very wicked, and I suspect this mother-in-law falls into the wicked category. She does not have any proof that her son is having an affair. 

You have said your husband told you that his mother does not like him, therefore, I can only assume that she would try her very best to hinder his progress. 

Don’t be a fool. Allow the filing to go through. You do not even have to say anything to your husband, do everything quietly. I shall be praying for you. 

Pastor